Plum Crazy

Is there any problem men suffer that can't be blamed on women?

No. No there is not.

I have to say, speaking purely from my personal experience, my sexual desires have never acted as an inhibitor to men. Not even once. In fact, they seem to enhance things. However, my personal experience is no basis on which to draw a statistically valid conclusion.

So let's just turn things around a little bit. These men are feeling tremendous pressure from women to have sex? Well, turnabout is fair play, no? I wonder what kind of response women would get if we suggested that the far greater amount of pressure we receive from men to have sex resulted in a lack of desire on our parts to have sex. I'm thinking something along the lines of "man-hating feminazi". You know? I don't see it being taken seriously.

Now let's talk about this man.

Sawyer recalls a young man who came to his office after class one day confessing that he hadn't been physically aroused in more than two years. "He was 20 years old, good-looking," Sawyer says. "I told him once he was in a relationship, things would get better. He said he could never get to the relationship because when he went out with a woman, she wanted to have sex almost immediately. He never got comfortable enough to tell them he had a problem, so he stopped dating."

I had a boyfriend once who had a similar problem. He now lives in Vancouver with a life partner named Grant. So just maybe the problem isn't pressure from women.

This paragraph is my favorite, though.

In certain young men, impotence can be a result of diabetes, cardiovascular disease or other organic problems. But for students such as the ones Brodie and other mental health professionals see, experts point to lifestyle. An increasing number of students arrive on campus taking antidepressants, some of which reduce libido and sexual function. They consume larger amounts of alcohol at one time than in years past, killing performance. Smoking, lack of exercise and anxiety also may be factors.

So there are lots of non-female-related lifestyle reasons why young men may be suffering. Yet, somehow, the gist of the article is how it's the fault of those damn wimmin and their sexual desires.

Meh. You'll have to pardon me if I'm a bit skeptical that the big problem here is that women want to have sex with men.

Via Feministe.